You’ve done the work. But the work hasn’t undone what’s still working you.
unruled
This is forensic shadow work at the level of identity.
There’s no “higher self” to step into.
Just you, finally unruled by what came before.
This is for you if you’re self-aware, self-responsible, and conscious as hell and still…
You react to your partner, your best friend, your mother-in-law… but half the time, you’re not responding to them, you’re responding to the ghost of the person who hurt you first.
You say the true thing…but trail it with a “haha,” a voice drop, or a softening, just in case it lands too hard.
You’ve spent more on your health than most people would spend on a car… and your nervous system still feels like it’s standing guard.
You earn easily… but holding it feels like holding fire. The money lands, then flies…relief, guilt, urgency, like your body won’t let it stay.
You know you're powerful…but still shrink mid-sentence to sound more reasonable, more digestible, less “too much.”
You leave just when it starts to feel safe… not because you don’t want closeness, but because you’re still not sure it’s real.
You’re not too much.
You’re not a lot of work.
You’re powerful, and still protecting a part that never got the all-clear to stop.
You think there’s something you must have missed...
Something you think should be resolved by now.
And you carry that like a secret shame:
If I’m this smart, this self-led, this resourced…Why does it still feel like I’m not fully in my life?
Why does one comment undo me for hours? Why can I name the pattern but still can’t stop it in the moment?
Why do I keep choosing the wrong people, or pulling away from the good ones?
You don’t say this from victimhood. You says it from responsibility.
You want to be the one who gets to the root. You’re just terrified the root might be you.
your shadow
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This isn’t about what you’ve missed. It’s about what’s still protecting you.
The over-functioning you can’t seem to switch off.
The exhaustion that creeps back the moment you slow down.
The part of you that double-checks, softens, scans, rewords… not because you’re unsure, but because the last time you said it straight, it cost you closeness.
This isn’t fear. It’s loyalty to the part of you that learned to belong by shrinking, softening, translating yourself for the room.
You think you’re the only one who has that jagged, reactive, “too much” part.
But that part isn’t your flaw. It’s your exiled genius.
And the fact that it’s been shoved into the dark is why it now runs the show.
You think your patterns are proof that you haven’t “healed” enough.
I know they’re proof of how precise your system’s been keeping you safe.
You think you’re holding back because something’s still wrong with you.
I know you’re holding back because something once went wrong for you.
And your system, and the parts trying to protect it, haven’t stopped running since.
You think those parts are the problem.
I know: the fact that they’re exiled is the problem.
YOU’RE NOT REACTING TO WHAT’S HERE
▸ He’s not being cold; your exiled part just still expects disconnection.
▸ She’s not passive-aggressive, you’re just projecting the ghost of the one who left.
▸ Your mother-in-law isn’t the threat; your shadow just hasn’t caught up to the present.
▸ He’s not withdrawing; your system just hasn’t learned to trust what’s stable.
And, even if they are withdrawing, projecting, or poking, this is where you no longer abandon yourself to make it easier for them to be who they are.
Because this isn’t about them.
It’s about your lens.
You’re not actually reacting to what’s here. You’re protecting yourself from what was.
UNRULED™ clears that filter.
You stop projecting ghosts.
▸ Your partner stops becoming the one who left.
▸ Your friend stops carrying the weight of your past betrayals.
▸ Your mother-in-law stops sounding like the voice that first made you feel small.
You finally see who’s actually in the room, not the version shaped by your past, your patterns, or your protection.
and WHEN THE PROTECTOR STOPS RUNNING THE SHOW…
You don’t just sound different. You move different.
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You stop translating your disappointment into “I totally get it!”
You feel the intimacy build, and you don’t pull away, pivot to humour, or go quiet to ease the tension
You stop micromanaging the mood in the room so that you don’t feel so anxious
You don’t shrink or puff up, because you no longer see people through the lens of the part still preparing for rejection
You see who’s actually in the room, not who your shadow projected them to be.
You don’t default to proving you’re “the easy one” just to stay chosen
No more shape-shifting for safety, calling it leadership, and still feeling alone at the top.
No more overcare while your own needs rot in the back corner
No more getting praised for resilience, you wish you didn’t have to keep proving
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You stop leaking energy into protection strategies and notice the inflammation eases
Your body no longer feels like a war zone or a project to perfect
You still feel the spike, but it no longer spirals into days of recovery
Your symptoms don’t vanish, but they’re no longer fed by shame, urgency, or fear
You stop managing health like a battlefield, and meet it like an ally
You name what you need, and your body stops screaming to get it across
Rest stops being a reward. It becomes your new rhythm.
Your body no longer needs to shout… because you’re finally listening
You finally see: your body’s not against you, it’s been trying to signal the truth you’ve never felt safe to say
Your period no longer feels like punishment
You stop preparing yourself for pain, and start noticing peace
Your energy stops tanking the moment you slow down
You don’t crash after the launch, the call, the visit, because you’re not running on survival
Your body stops feeling like the enemy and becomes a mirror
You track less, because the urgency to control it… is gone
The inflammation softens because the internal fight has
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You walk into the room without adjusting your volume first
You stop running every move through the projection of how they’ll receive it
You lead with warmth and edge, because neither are strategies anymore
You hold the moment that used to trigger shutdown, and stay
You lead from the version of you that’s no longer apologising for your presence
The conversation happens without disclaimers, smiley faces, or softening it to make it easier to receive.
You leave the damn post up.
You share the idea the moment it arrives, not after three weeks of editing.
You ask for what you want without trailing qualifiers like breadcrumbs
You say “that doesn’t work for me”, without softening the edges
You name the need before justifying why you should be allowed to have it
You speak in real time, not 3 days after you’ve rehearsed it in your head
You post without disclaimers and leave it up without flinching
You stop replaying that offhand comment from Tuesday, whilst deciding what you should have said
You stop saying “that’s fine” when it’s not, then slamming dishes because no one asked what you needed
No more adding “haha” to the text so they don’t think you’re mad
You stop translating your “no” into something easier to receive.
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The money hits your account, and you don’t move it instantly like it’s burning a hole.
You stop discounting the offer before anyone objects
You send the invoice, without adding “but let me know if that’s too much”
You don’t build the offer around what’s palatable, you build what’s true
The offer drops in, and this time you back it.
You stop overspending for a hit, then tracking groceries like a hawk
You stop pretending you need more clarity. You already know.
You don’t ask your mentor what to do next. You already heard it… from you.
You send the pitch without rewriting it 5 times.
Yes, you still feel the adrenaline and charge in life, but this time, it doesn’t take the reins.
It’s not about being fearless. It’s about leading, even while the old part still whispers… and no longer obeying her.
It’s about capacity.
➤ For deeper creation.
➤ For cleaner moves.
➤ For louder desires.
➤ For the moment you actually say what you came here to say
Because when your shadows aren’t in exile, they’re not in charge. And the part of you that already knows?
She finally has the mic.…and your energy has somewhere better to go
And here’s the part you never suspect:
The very parts you’ve been shaming, suppressing, or side-eyeing are often the marrow of your magic.
Not flaws. Not something to be ashamed of.
The gold. The gift.
The very thing you’ve been trying to find… is the part you’ve been trying to fix.
UNRULED™ brings her home.
Not by pushing her forward.
By ending the pattern that kept her hidden.
This is elite shadow + nervous system alchemy.
Because when you can know your own shadows that intimately,
They lose their power to run you again.
Why I Created This Work, and What It Did for Me
This isn’t theory.
It’s the work that rewired how I move, and why I built Unruled™.
When I stopped treating my patterns like flaws and started meeting them as precision protection, everything changed.
Unruled™ was born from the identity-level shadow and parts work that helped me stop obeying the internal drivers that I didn’t even know I was listening to.
Before I was a coach, I was a cop.
Trained to track micro-shifts in speech, tone, expression, and body language…not just what was said, but what was missing.
That lens never left. I don’t “intuit” patterns. I trace them like a cold case. Not by interrogating. By listening for the moment your protector takes the mic… and you don’t even realise she did.
That’s where the shift begins.
And when I later combined that with deep nervous system and body-based tracking (now inside Untouchable™, the full BodyIntel™ method)… my entire life transformed.
I went from not being able to hold money to holding multiple six figures in investments...untouched, compounding, not leaking.
My marriage went from separation to deep reconnection. After 11 years, we’re more intimate, honest, and solid than ever.
I stopped constantly projecting and started building.
My business exploded. I now have a waitlist of global clients, some requesting to commit to 12 months coaching at a time.
My voice strengthened. My presence expanded. I no longer dilute or delay the truth, in life or online.
I stopped burning energy on protection… and started channelling it into creation.
Unruled™ is where that shift began, in the moment I stopped letting my shadows run the whole damn show.
HOW IT WORKS
2 x 45-minute coaching sessions/month (Zoom)
WhatsApp access (Mon–Thurs): not for dumping; for clean, catalytic reflection in real time.
$997 AUD / month
→ Three-month minimum commitment.
→6 and 12-month options are also available and can be selected during application
WHAT HAPPENS INSIDE SESSIONS?
You speak. I listen for what’s running underneath.
You say you’re fine…I hear the breath that held back the resentment.
You say you’re not mad…I hear the tone drop that says otherwise.
That’s where we go.
This is forensic shadow work in real time, the exact moment your protector speaks instead of you… and you don’t even realise it.
In a session:
I reflect language you didn’t know you used
I name power leaks, edits, contractions, and tone shifts
I trace the moment your system softened the truth just to stay safe
I ask sharp, confronting questions that surface what’s unconscious (or conscious but ignored), so it stops running the show.
And when that gets met, not judged, not shamed, not managed, but met cleanly and precisely in real time, it ends.
You walk away not just aware…
You walk away free.
Because you saw the part of you that was about to protect…and you stayed with her.
That’s where it ends.
Not in more mindset work.
But in a reckoning so sharp, your system finally sees: she’s no longer needed..
This isn’t where we “do the work.”
It’s where the work that’s still doing you gets seen… and ends.
How can I know my victimhood so well that it never runs me again?
If you’ve studied your trauma, named your patterns, but still feel them run your body… this is for you.
I’m trauma-informed and trained. But this isn’t a space for trauma-identification or healing through reprocessing.
We don’t keep the wound open to prove it was real; your system already knows it was. We meet the part that’s still protecting it, and help her realise… she doesn’t have to anymore.
WHO THIS
IS FOR
The woman who:
Is praised for being “resilient,” but is exhausted by what she still has to hold
Doesn’t want another coach telling her to “tap into her power”, she wants someone who can see what her power’s still protecting.
Leads herself through everything… but still finds herself over-explaining, justifying, or freezing when it matters most.
Doesn’t want pep talks or plans. She wants to end the loop.
Is sick of being told to “trust the process” when she already is the process…she just needs the pattern seen…sharp and clean, and without shame.
Doesn’t need saving, she needs the pattern named clean so she can end it
WHO THIS IS NOT FOR
This is not for you if you:
Want check-ins, reminders, or daily encouragement to stay on track.
Need someone to hold your hand while you second-guess your next move.
Are still in the season of naming the pain (a sacred season), but not yet ready to end the pattern.
Expect coaching to feel “inspiring” instead of confronting.
Want a business coach, life coach, or someone to reframe your mindset…I don’t coach your goals. I coach your shadows.
Aren’t ready to meet the part of you that’s been quietly running the whole thing… and stop letting her.
This isn’t the space to be held through the fire. This is the space to name the fuel source… and stop feeding it.
You’re not here to be fixed.
You’re here to stop obeying what no longer gets to run the show.
Let’s begin.
FAQs
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No. You just need to be willing to see the root behind the surface.
You might bring a conversation that didn’t land well…
A fight you keep having…
A desire you keep shelving…
The thing taking up most of your mental capacity that day…
And we trace the pattern back to what’s actually driving it.This work is precise.
It’s often not what you think is the problem, but what’s been running underneath it all along. -
No. That’s not how self-led women grow, and you’re not here to be managed.
WhatsApp (Mon–Thurs) is open for real-time moments you want to unpack, patterns you’re noticing, or questions you’re wrestling with. It’s not for daily check-ins, dumping, or being “rescued.”
I won’t handhold you.
But I will meet you in sharp, honest reflection.
I won’t “fix” you.
But I will listen deeply, track cleanly, and reflect the truth that’s asking to be seen.This isn’t about being held accountable.
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This is especially for you.
If you’ve journaled, regulated, reframed, initiated, and still feel hijacked in certain areas (relationships, voice, money, health)…
it’s not because you haven’t done enough.IIt’s because a part of you is still working harder than you are…quietly, brilliantly, to protect something that once kept you safe.
We don’t start at square one.
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If you’re catching yourself in real time, naming the shadow, and meeting it without collapse or override...that is integration.
Shadow work can absolutely complete the loop when the system has enough safety and awareness to hold the moment cleanly.
But sometimes, even with all that… the body still runs. The charge stays live.
Not because you missed something, but because the imprint lives deeper than the insight.
That’s not failure.
That’s a handover point.
It’s where Untouchable™ comes in: the body-based expression of my full BodyIntel™ method: to meet the pattern in your tissue, spine, and field, not just your awareness.
So what’s still running underneath finally ends.
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No.
We don’t process past trauma or soothe your nervous system.
We meet the part of you that already knows what to say, but still won’t say it.
This isn’t about staying safe.
It’s about staying with what’s true.Self-honesty. Identity-level integrity. Ending the loop…cleanly, fully, finally.
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Yes, read this before you apply.
Unruled™ is not casual coaching. It’s deep, identity-level shadow work. That means we name and work with the uncomfortable stuff: your protection strategies, projections, resistance, self-sabotage, freeze, people-pleasing, avoidance, and control.
This isn’t about tips, tricks, or “mindset hacks.”
It’s surgical. It’s sharp. It’s designed for self-led women who are:
Open to direct, non-sugarcoated feedback
Willing to take responsibility for their reactions (including defensiveness)
Ready to look at the parts they’ve historically avoided
Able to regulate themselves emotionally between sessions
If you’re looking for gentle affirmations or light pep talks, this isn’t the right space.
But if you’re ready to face the pattern at the root, not just treat its symptoms, then welcome in.
Before applying, please review the full Terms & Conditions and Client Waiver & Informed Consent.
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You’ll answer a few clear questions.
If it’s a strong fit, I’ll invite you into the container.If not, I’ll let you know: cleanly and honestly.
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Due to current client capacity, most applicants will be placed on a waitlist. If you’re approved, you’ll be notified as soon as a space becomes available.
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This isn’t where I check in on you like a worried mum, chase you down with “how are you going?” check-ins, or send cheerleader gifs when things feel wobbly.
I’m not here to monitor progress. I’m here to reflect the exact moment the old pattern tries to take the reins, and offer you something cleaner to choose.
WhatsApp isn’t for venting. It’s for signal-tracking. For catching the loop mid-spin, and stopping the spiral before it runs.
This isn’t about being held accountable by someone else. It’s about being met, cleanly, by someone who trusts your leadership…even when your nervous system’s testing it.
This container is not for rescue. It’s for activating your unruled self… where the protector no longer needs to stay on guard.
Please note:
This space is currently at capacity.
Applications remain open for the woman who knows this is her next move.
If that’s you, apply to join the waitlist.
Approved applicants will receive first access to openings as they arise, or when 2026 capacity opens following my relocation to Denver, CO.
If you’re the right match, you’ll be the first to know.